Breaking Free: How to Protect Your Peace and Reclaim Your P…

Growth isn't always smooth—it often means facing uncomfortable truths about toxic relationships and the people who resist your boundaries. In this episode, we dive into reclaiming your power in sobriety, setting firm boundari...

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January 31, 2025

Breaking Free: How to Protect Your Peace and Reclaim Your Power Season 3 - Episode 7

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Growth isn't always smooth—it often means facing uncomfortable truths about toxic relationships and the people who resist your boundaries. In this episode, we dive into reclaiming your power in sobriety, setting firm boundaries, and letting go of blame to protect your peace. Join Daniel Nelson and Marcus the Motivator as they share stories, insights, and strategies to help you rise stronger and live authentically.

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The Sobriety Proof Podcast.

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Welcome to Absolutely Focused Radio, the show where we go

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beyond the surface to explore sobriety, relationships and personal transformation.

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I'm your host, Daniel Nelson, and today we're tackling one

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of the hardest parts of sobriety that no one really

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prepares you for what happens after you put the bottle down.

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Because here's the truth, quitting alcohol is just the beginning.

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The real work starts when you're forced to face the pain,

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the relationships, and the patterns that drove you to drink

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in the first place. That's why I brought in someone

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who truly understands what it means to push through obstacles

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and step into personal power. My guest today is none

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other than Marcus the Motivator, a coach, a speaker, and

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someone who has helped countless individuals break free from taxic cycles. Marcus,

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Welcome to the show.

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Thanks for having me, Daniel. This topic is incredibly important.

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Sobriety is about way more than just stopping drinking. It's

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about learning how to truly live again.

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Segment one, the reality of sobriety and hidden struggles.

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Let's get right into it. A lot of people assume

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that once you get sober, life automatically improves, but that's

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not always the case.

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Right, Oh, absolutely. The reality is that sobriety forces you

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to face everything you are trying to escape and one

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of the biggest challenges realizing that not everyone in your

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life is rooting for your success. Some people liked you

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better when you didn't have boundaries, when you were easy

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to manipulate, or when your self worth was so that

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you accepted anything.

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Right, And that's a huge wake up call. A study

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from the National Institute on Recovery found that over eighty

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five percent of people in early sobriety have to completely

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redid the social circles within the first year. That means

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most of the people who were around and you were

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drinking aren't the same ones who they're healing exactly.

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And that's why I always say sobriety isn't just about

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quitting drinking, so it's about reclaiming your power.

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Segment two toxic relationships and setting boundaries.

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Let's talk about the people who try to pull you

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back into unhealthy patterns. Maybe it's a friend who always

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calls when they need something, but never when you need support.

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Maybe it's a partner who doesn't respect your decision to

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get sober. In sobriety, you start asking where is my

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PA in all of this? And when you do, the

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people who benefited from your silence start pushing back.

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That's so true. The moment you start setting boundaries, two

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things happen. The right people will respect them, the wrong

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people will resist them. And listen, if someone gets angry

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because you're taking care of yourself, that's a red flag.

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No one who truly loves you will resent you for

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prioritizing your mental health.

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That's such an important message. Research from the twenty twenty

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two study found that people who established clear boundaries in

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early recovery are three times more likely to maintain long

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term sobriety.

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Yes, the boundaries are a form of self respect. They're

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not about punishing others. They're about protecting yourself from toxic

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patterns that could pull you back into destructive behaviors.

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Segment three rebuilding and finding your purpose.

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Once you cut out the toxic relationships, there's something else

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that people don't talk about enough, the void it leaves behind.

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When you stop prioritizing unhealthy relationships, you suddenly realize what

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do I do with all this time and energy.

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This is where purpose comes in, because if you don't

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fill that void with something meaningful, you risk going back

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toward's familiar.

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That's powerful. A recent study found that ninety two percent

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of people who maintain long term sobriety report experiencing a

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complete shift in their identity within the first two years.

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For me, that meant creating this podcast and building the

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platform to help others navigate their journey. For someone else,

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it might mean writing a book, starting a business, or

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even just learning how to live.

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In peace exactly.

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Purpose is what keeps you going where motivation fades, and

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it doesn't have to be some huge, grand thing. It

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just has to be meaningful to you.

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Closing message and call to action.

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If today's episode spoke to you, I want you to

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take a moment and ask yourself. What do I need

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to release in order to be free? Is it the

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fear of what others think a toxic relationship, the guilt

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of choosing yourself for the first time, whatever it is,

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know this, you are not alone. Sobriety isn't about being perfect.

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It's about choosing yourself every single day. If you're looking

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for support, resources or a community that gets it. Head

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over to my website or join our private group where

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we talk about all of this open lines and without

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judgment reason. And if this episode helped you, share it

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with someone who needs to hear it. Because we rise

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by lifting each other until next time, Stay absolutely focused.

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You got this.

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Every step that I taking a rise from the ground

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with dreams on my mind. Here the strain, feel the sound.

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We ain't looking back, only for it.

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We go rising up together like the whole world know.

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Keep pushing through this storm, see the lighter ahead. With

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every heartbeat was stronger inside.

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We are the warriors.

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We rise from the dust with hearts full of courage

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in ourselves. We trust this sad litmus trays it's our

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and it's clear we're ready to conquer. There's nothing It's

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a fear.