Navigating One-Sided Relationships Season 3 - Episode 9

In this episode of Absolutely Focused Radio, hosts Daniel Nelson and Jane Marie delve into the dynamics of one-sided relationships. They explore how these relationships manifest in friendships, workplaces, and personal connec...

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February 13, 2025

Navigating One-Sided Relationships Season 3 - Episode 9

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In this episode of Absolutely Focused Radio, hosts Daniel Nelson and Jane Marie delve into the dynamics of one-sided relationships.
They explore how these relationships manifest in friendships, workplaces, and personal connections, especially in the context of sobriety and mental wellness. With eye-opening statistics and practical strategies, this episode features special segments with Marcus the Motivator and Chucky Chip, providing listeners with tools to navigate these complex dynamics.
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The Society Crew podcast Anthem. Welcome back to Absolutely Focused Radio,

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your go to source for insights and strategies on living

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a balanced and fulfilling life. Today, hosts Daniel Nelson Akatha Budd,

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Your Sobriety Buddy, and Jane Marie from The Sobriety Crew

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will explore the dynamics of one sided relationships. Whether in friendships, workplaces,

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or personal connections, These relationships can drain our emotional energy

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and impact our journey to sobriety and mental wellness. Stay

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tuned as they delve into the patterns, provide eye opening statistics,

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share practical strategies, and feature special segments with Marcus the

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Motivator and Chucky Chip.

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Welcome to today's episode of Absolutely Focused Radio. I'm Daniel

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Nelson aka Bud, your Sobriety.

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Buddy, and I'm Jane Marie from the Sobriety Crew. Today

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we're diving into a topic that affects many one sided relationships.

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We'll explore how these dynamics manifest in friendships, workplaces, and

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personal relationships, especially in the context of maintaining sobriety and

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mental wellness.

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One sided relationships occur when there's an imbalance where one

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person consistently gives more than they received. This can lead

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to emotional exhaustion and impact one's journey to sobriety.

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One sided friendships.

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Let's start with friendships. Have you ever felt that a

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friend only reaches out when they need something, but is

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absent when you need support.

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Absolutely, this is a common sign of a one sided friendship.

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Studies indicate that approximately sixty percent of individuals have experienced

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at least one one sided relationship in their lives.

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In such dynamics, one person may consistently initiate contact, provide support,

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and invest time, while the other takes without reciprocation. Over time,

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this imbalance can lead to feelings of resentment and decrease

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self worth.

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For those in recovery, it's crucial to recognize these patterns.

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Surrounding oneself with supportive and reciprocal relationships can significantly impact

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one's sobriety journey.

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Strategies to address one sided friendships.

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Open communication is key. Express your feelings to your friend

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and observe their response.

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Set boundaries. It's essential to protect your emotional.

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Energy reflect on friendship's value. If the imbalance persists, it

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might be time to reevaluate the Relationship.

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Motivational Tip with Marcus the Motivator.

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One effective tip is to schedule your availability. Let your

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friends know the times when you're available for support, and

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stick to those boundaries. This will help you manage your

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emotional energy better.

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One sided workplace relationships.

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In the workplace, have you ever noticed that certain colleagues

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or departments claim to support employees with services or programs,

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but when it comes to confidential matters, things take a

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different turn. It's strange how people start treating you differently

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the moment you share something sensitive. They may even suggest

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that what you shared could jeopardize your job. Despite initially

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claiming understand and support.

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It's truly discouraging to find that the support you counted

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on turns out to be shallow. Some colleagues or departments

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may seem to champion employee interests, but ultimately put company

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policies above individual well being. This often results in feelings

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of disillusionment and reduce job satisfaction. Being aware of these

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dynamics is crucial for preserving mental health.

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Strategies. To navigate workplace imbalances.

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Document your interactions. Keeping records can be invaluable.

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Seek external support such as counseling or peer groups to

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process your experiences.

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Consider setting professional boundaries, and, if necessary, explore other employment

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opportunities that align with your values.

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Strength tech moment with Chucky Chip.

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Hey everyone, it's Chucky Chip. With today's tech moment. Ever

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wondered how technology can help you navigate workplace dynamics, Try

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using apps like reflectly for journaling and mood tracking. These

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apps can help you identify patterns in your interactions and

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provide insights into your emotional well being.

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One sided personal relationships and covert narcissism on the.

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Home front, one sided relationships can be even more challenging,

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especially when dealing with a covert narcissistic spouse.

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Covert narcissists are individuals who exhibit narcissistic traits in subtle ways.

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They may appear humble or introverted, but harbor a deep

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sense of entitlement.

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And lack of stafit.

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Signs of a covert narcissistic partner include emotional unavailability, passive

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aggressive behavior, and a tendency to play the victim. These

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behaviors can erode one's self esteem and sense of reality.

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Strategies to cope with a covert narcissistic partner.

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Established firm boundaries. Clearly define what behaviors are unacceptable.

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Practice self care. Engage in activities that reinforce your self

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worth and autonomy.

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Seek professional health therapy can provide tools to navigate the

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complexities of such relationships.

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Motivational tip with Marcus the Motivator.

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Practice assertive communication. Clearly state your boundaries and reinforce them. Consistently.

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Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist to help

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you stay strong.

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In some cases, it might be necessary to consider ending

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the relationship, especially if it's detrimental to your sobriety and

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mental health.

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Being sober in the dark.

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It's funny how we pick and choose what to bring

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to the light, no matter how much money we may have.

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Often we overlook the importance of recognizing our sobriety as

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a significant achievement.

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Indeed, there's a tendency to dismiss sobriety with a simple oh, good,

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move on, But it deserves more recognition. Being sober should

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be celebrated, not just acknowledged and then overlooked.

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Regardless of how much we choose not to focus on

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the negative or how much we celebrate ourselves, our sobriety

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should be recognized.

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Statistics on suicide and isolation.

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Here's a sobering fact. Over forty nine thousand people died

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by suicide in twenty twenty two, which is about one

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death every eleven minute. Social isolation is a significant risk factor,

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with individuals experiencing loneliness and lack of social connections being

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more vulnerable.

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It's crucial to address these issues and provides support for

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those struggling with isolations. Recognizing and celebrating one sobriety can

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be a vital part of this support.

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Recognition after death.

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It's disheartening how some individuals are only recognized for their

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achievements after they pass away.

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Vincent van Gould sold only one painting during his lifetime,

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but is now celebrated as one of the greatest artists

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of all time. Emily Dickinson published only a few poems

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during her life, but her extensive body of work was

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recognized posthumously. Franz Kafka's works were initially rejected by publishers,

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but he is now considered one of the most influence

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existentials writing.

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The point here is to say, don't spend your sobriety

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trying to prove anything to anyone. Be yourself and focus

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on your journey. You may find yourself drinking worse than

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the reason you started if you try to prove yourself

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to others.

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Thank those who show their true selves, even if their

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actions reveal their flaws. It helps you see the reality

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and make informed decisions.

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Sometimes the problem lies with others, and it's okay to

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acknowledge that, recognize their true selves and move forward with

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your sobriety.

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Conclusion and empowerment strategies.

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Recognizing one sided relationships is the first step towards empowerment.

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By understanding these dynamics, you can make informed decisions that

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prioritize your well being.

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Remember, your journey to sobriety and mental wellness is paramount.

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To surround yourself with relationships that uplift and support you.

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Chelous.

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Thank you for joining us today, Stay empowered, and until

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next time, take care of yourself.

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Relapse statistics studies show that forty to sixty percent of

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people with substance use disorders relapse, indicating the importance of

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ongoing support and self awareness.

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Desire to be heard statistics.

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Research suggests that seventy percent of individuals feel they are

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not truly heard or understood by others, highlighting the value

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of empathetic communication with funny reflection.

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It's funny how people always think you are complaining, but

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sometimes you just processing and want to share. Not everyone

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will understand that, but it's important to keep sharing for

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your own growth and well being.

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Step A, take A claim my crown.

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Stronger than before, I won't back down and break a

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ball with my strength.

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That's crown.

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Through the fire, through the rein, I found the strengthen

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every pain, Now sound a face in a break up,

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all thost take my claim, break upon and no one

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can bring me down. But thereby step A take I

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claim my crown. Straw them before a ball, back down,

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a breakaball with my strength. That's a crown.