Regret Ain’t a Refund – Absolutely Focused Radio Podcast

Regret is a weight time won’t refund, but it doesn’t have to define you. In this powerful episode of Absolutely Focused Radio Podcast, Daniel Thabudd Nelson breaks down how regret affects relationships, family, work, and self...

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March 20, 2025

Regret Ain’t a Refund – Absolutely Focused Radio Podcast

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Regret is a weight time won’t refund, but it doesn’t have to define you. In this powerful episode of Absolutely Focused Radio Podcast, Daniel Thabudd Nelson breaks down how regret affects relationships, family, work, and self-worth.Joined by life coach Jane Marie and the Sobriety Crew, we explore how to recognize regret, separate emotion from reality, and take action to move forward. If you've ever felt trapped by past mistakes or unspoken truths, this episode is your wake-up call.Tune in, let go, and take back your power!

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In the mirror, Breaking the Cycle, How to Free Yourself

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from Regret. Welcome back to Absolutely Focused radio podcast. This

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is episode thirteen and we're diving into season three of Regret.

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Ain't a Refund. If you've been following along, you know

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we've been peeling back the layers of regret, what it is,

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how it affects our lives, and how it shows up

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in relationships, breaking family, friendships and even work. But today

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it's about solutions. It's about taking back control because regret

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doesn't have to own you. You are not your past mistakes.

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You are not what didn't happen for you. You are

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bigger than the pain. You can move forward. Introducing Daniel Nelson,

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your Sobriety buddy. He's joined by the amazing Jane, Marie

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and the rest of the Sobriety crew. Because this conversation

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needs the full squad, let's get into it. Breaking the Cycle,

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How to Free Yourself from Regret.

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We've talked about how regret can hold us back, how

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it can be tied to our relationships, childhood experiences.

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And even our careers. But here's the truth.

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Regret isn't just about looking back. It's about what you

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do next. So today we're getting into how to break

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the cycles.

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How do you stop regret from controlling your life? How

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do you move.

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Forward without carrying that weight with the us?

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That's the key question, Daniel, because regret can keep us

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stuff if we don't actively work to break free from it.

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But here's the good news. There are ways to move forward,

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and I want to walk our listeners through some of

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the most effective strategies.

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We do the shadows of minds.

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Acknowledge and name your.

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Regret, chains of regret trying to hold me down.

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The first step in breaking free from regret is to

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acknowledge it. You can't heal what you won't face. A

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lot of people suppress regret because it's uncomfortable. It forces

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them to admit they made a mistake or missed an opportunity.

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But avoiding regret only makes it grow. So take a

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moment and ask yourself, what is the regret that keeps

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coming up for me? Is it something I did or

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something I didn't do? How long have I been carrying this?

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Write it down, say it out loud, own it. Because

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the moment you acknowledge regret, you take away its power

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to control you.

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That's real.

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I've had to do this myself. I've had regrets about

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past relationships, business decisions, even how I handled certain friendships,

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and I realized that as long as I ignored them,

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they kept showing up in my thoughts, in my decisions,

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in my energy.

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But the moment I.

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Admitted to myself, yeah, I regret that, I felt like

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I could finally move forward.

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That goes forgiveness. What you know you can't no.

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Forgiveness is hard, especially when you know what you know.

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You can't unsee certain behaviors. You can't unknow the truth

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when it finally reveals itself. And let's be real, sometimes

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people don't even recognize the damage they've done. Why because

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they were taught that behavior. Some folks grew up seeing manipulation,

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emotional neglect, or even outright cruelty as normal, and by

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the time they realize it, by the time life humbles

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them enough to see.

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It, it's too late. The damage is done.

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Now, Let's be clear, not all family, not all friends,

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not all coworkers, and not all bosses are guilty of this.

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There are people who truly have your best interests at heart.

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There are people who support you and want to see you.

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When but let's be real.

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There are also those who only show up when it

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benefits them, and when you call them out or set boundaries,

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suddenly you're the problem. And here's the real kicker. Some

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people only start appreciating someone when they're gone. They wait

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until that person is no longer here, and then they

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want to reflect.

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To apologize, to wish they had done better.

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But if they even remember that person at all, how

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do you think that makes them feel? Nobody ever thinks

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about this. They just say or get over it. But

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the moment you start holding people accountable for what they did,

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the conversation shifts. Suddenly you're the one making a big deal.

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Suddenly you're living in the past. And if you're in recovery,

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oh now it's a whole different subject.

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Now.

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Instead of people seeing that you're defending your sobriety, your mindset,

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your life, they try to make you feel guilty for

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protecting your peace.

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That's a major issue, Daniel, because the reality is people

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often don't like when you start healing, especially if your

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healing requires them to confront their role in your pain.

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And here's where forgiveness gets tricky. A man convinced against

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their will is of the same opinion, still meaning, you

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can't force someone to see their wrongs, you can't make

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someone acknowledge your pain, and you definitely can't wait around

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hoping for an apology that may never come. Forgiveness at

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its core, is not about them. It's about you. It's

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about choosing to let go of the anger, not because

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they deserve it, but because you deserve peace. Not all

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people will understand the weight of what you carry, and

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not everyone will validate your pain. That's why forgiveness isn't

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about waiting for them to change. It's about freeing yourself,

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regardless of what they choose to do.

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Generational change, breaking the cycle.

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This is about more than just personal regret.

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This is about making a generational change. Because some people

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never break free from the cycle. They repeat the same

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behaviors they grew up around. They carry the same pain

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that was passed down to them. They never question it,

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never challenge it, and the pattern continues. So let's ask

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the real question, who in your life is going to

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be the one to stop it? Who is going to

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be the one to say this ends with me? Because

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if you're listening to this right now, maybe you are

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that person. Maybe you are the one who's supposed to

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stop regret from running through your family like a disease.

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And let me tell you, it's not easy. People don't

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always like when.

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You decide to change.

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But I'll say this, Don't ever let someone guilt you

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for protecting your peace. Don't ever let someone shame you

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for setting boundaries, because the truth is, the people who

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don't respect your boundaries are the very ones who.

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Benefited from you not having.

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Any motivational moment with Marcus the Motivator.

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Hi, listen up. Regret ain't a refund. You don't get

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those years back, and you can't force people to see

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what they ain't ready to see. So stop waiting for

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an apology that may never come. Stop waiting for people

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to appreciate you when it's convenient for them. Live your

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life now. Choose peace, now, choose you now, because the

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past is done, the future wide open. Move different, heal different,

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be different, and most of all, stay awesome.

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Closing thoughts and affirmations from the Sobriety Crew.

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Regret is a part of life, but it doesn't have

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to define you. You can acknowledge it, learn from it,

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and use it to grow. And if nobody told.

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You today, you're doing better than you think.

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You deserve peace, no matter what's behind you. Now, before

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we close, let's hear an affirmation from the Sobriety crew.

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You are not your past. You are not your mistakes.

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Every moment is a new opportunity to write a different story.

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Choose growth over regret.

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Regret ain't a refund, So don't waste your energy looking back.

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Take that energy and put it into your future. Keep pushing,

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keep growing, and most of all, stay awesome.

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That's it right there. Hit me up on Absolutely Focused Radio.

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Let's keep the conversation going, and don't forget. Check out

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my book seventy seven Affirmations of Sobriety on Amazon. Stay

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awesome and smile on purpose because you are the purpose.

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Reet okantousys.

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I'm fondling nor Marchin's and all death bang.

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Men, no man, money, the cans down.

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Mantle man of them, all your.

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Side and go stay. I'm placing count back here the

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chance of life. I'm free from there.

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