S03E21 – What’s Your New Therapy

Where healing meets hustle, and emotional sobriety becomes a daily commitment.In this soul-shifting episode, Daniel Thabudd Nelson and the Sobriety Crew dive deep into the realities of healing after emotional shutdown, toxic ...

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May 09, 2025

S03E21 – What’s Your New Therapy

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Where healing meets hustle, and emotional sobriety becomes a daily commitment.In this soul-shifting episode, Daniel Thabudd Nelson and the Sobriety Crew dive deep into the realities of healing after emotional shutdown, toxic cycles, and people-pleasing. From AI metaphors to mental health resources, this episode bridges the worlds of tech and truth, asking the question: What’s your new therapy?🔍 Topics covered:

Emotional invalidation and “denial listening”
Prompt sabotage and tech as a healing metaphor
The myth of forgiveness as permission
How to reflect energy without losing your peace
Journaling, mindfulness, and digital self-expression tools

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7 Cups
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Calm
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Website: calm.com

Insight Timer
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Headspace
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Website: headspace.com🎨 Creative Tools
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Up Absolutely Focused Radio, where healing meets hustle and emotional.

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Sobriety isn't just a choice, it's a daily commitment. Ever,

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wonder why some people stay silent, why they choose never

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to say anything at all. Maybe it's because the moment

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they speak their truth, they're treated like they have to

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audition to be believed. Welcome to Absolutely Focused Radio. You're

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now locked in with a sobriety crew. Jane Marie bringing

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the stats and facts, Chucky chip Tech on deck, Marcus

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the Motivator delivering inspiration for the nation, and your sobriety buddy,

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Daniel Nelson. Let's tap in, let's heal loud, Let's get focused.

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I speak my truth without shrinking. I show up with clarity,

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not apology, and I protect my peace like the sacred process.

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It is because my healing doesn't need permission.

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You know what's truly exhausting, it's when people mimic your

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journey but only copy the parts that make them look good.

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They adopt your language, borrow your mindset, and echo your message,

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but they skip the nights you spent crying, They skip

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the loneliness, they skip the silence between prayers and pain.

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Then they say that couldn't have happened to you. You're

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being dramatic? Why are you still stuck on that? They

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ask you to speak your truth, but dissect it like

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it needs their stamp of approval. So why does it

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feel like you have to prove you're worthy of being heard?

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Is that really support or emotional sabotage? Wearing a friendly face.

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Real support says I see you, all of you, No

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edits needed.

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When the numbing stops, alcohol, toxic habits, emotional shut down,

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something powerful happens. What is my new therapy? It's no

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longer a battle. It's not pretending everything's okay now. It's journaling,

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it's reflection, it's therapy. It's learning. It's sitting in nature

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without pressure to perform. It's living with clarity.

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You know, healing doesn't always look like therapy on a couch.

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Sometimes it's about getting to know you again. It might

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be creating with AI tools like chat, GPT, starting a

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YouTube channel, flooring tech that helps you feel seen and heard.

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Here's what that might look like today. Journaling apps, Day one, Communities,

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seven Cups, san Vella, Mindfulness, Calm, Insight, Timer, Headspace, creative tools,

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cap cut CANVA descript chat GPT like now helping write

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what's been stuck inside, because healing doesn't need to be

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perfect to begin, It just needs to be real, gentle

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and daily.

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Thank you, Chucky Daniel, what you said. There's science behind it.

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Psychology today calls it denial listening hearing only to defend,

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not to understand. You've probably heard. You're too sensitive. Maybe

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you misunderstood it wasn't that serious. That's emotional invalidation when

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your truth gets erased for someone else's comfort. Only share

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your story with people who've earned the right to hear it.

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Journal your growth so no one can gaslight your reality.

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Your healing doesn't need a jury. Let me be clear,

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this isn't just about emotions. This is about truth, trust,

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and the right to heal without being questioned.

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It happens in tech two. We call it prompt sabotage.

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If your input is lazy, the output won't be deep.

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Same with life. People want your glow, but skip your grind.

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Just like AI models, life follows a basic rule garbage in,

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garbage out. If you feed confusion, you'll get chaos. If

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you approach a problem with a half hearted effort, don't

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be surprised when the results are disappointing. People want the

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final product, whether it's wisdom, creativity, or success, but they

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don't always want to understand the process behind it. Truth

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is coding in life. Both require precision, effort, and a

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willingness to refine until you get it right. Imagine trying

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to make lasagna with just noodles, no sauce, no cheese,

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no seasoning. That's how people sometimes treat personal growth. They

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grab onto a trendy word like boundaries or self care

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and think it's enough to overhaul their life. But healing

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isn't just setting boundaries. It's sitting with discomfort, letting pain

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simmer into wisdom, and layering experiences until you create something whole. Growth,

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like a recipe, takes patience, process, and the right mix

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of elements. Each AI model has its own strengths. GPT

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three point five is like the local fair, quick fun

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gets the job done.

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But isn't too deep.

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GPT four is like Universal Studios, packed with features, smarter responses,

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and a richer experience. Claude slash geminis like Disneyland, designed

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to be creative, emotionally aware, and engaging in a way.

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That feels more human.

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Open source models is like backyard Carnival DIY style, flexible

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but unpredictable. You better know what you're doing before you

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jump in, and just like AI models, life is about

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understanding the tools you're working with. Some experiences will be

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surface level, some will be immersive, and some require skill

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to navigate correctly. Nothing functions without a prompt, whether it's

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AI or real life breakthroughs. You can't expect success if

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you don't show up with effort. You can't demand deep

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relationships without investing in them. You can't heal without doing

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the work. Every transformation starts with intentional action. Some people

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mimic growth. They take pieces of someone's experience and present

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them as their own without walking the actual path. They

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remix journeys to fit their comfort zone, but skip the struggle,

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the sleepless nights, the real work. Don't let anyone shortcut

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your truth. Stay intentional, stay real, and never shrink your

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process just because others want quick results.

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Protect your truth like it's your peace password, Because once

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people start remixing your story to suit the narrative, you're

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no longer in a relationship. You're in a performance.

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I don't shrink to make people feel taller though.

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I don't need permission to feel deeply.

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I am rooted, I am rising, I am healing and purpose.

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You are not behind, You're becoming.

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Clarity invites understanding. Understanding prevents explosions. It bridges silence before

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it hardens into resentment. Sometimes it's better to ask than

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to isolate. And here's something real. The more I forgive,

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the more some expect me to almost like forgiveness is

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a license to keep hurting me. But that's not a

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fantastic thing. That's a red flag. So now I reflect

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your energy. I return exactly what you gave me. And

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suddenly people are frustrated. But when they were doing it

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it was fine. Funny how balance feels like betrayal when

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you're used to privilege. This has been absolutely focused radio

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where tech meets truth and wellness, is a full time job.

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Don't let anyone hijack your process. If it took years

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to speak, you're speaking now. Ask DAILI, what's my new therapy?

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Is it?

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Books, a podcast, a silent walk? You can do anything.

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It's not too late to be great. Whatever it is,

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do it with love, do it with intention.

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