Season 3 Episode 20: Firewall Down – Trust Exploited, Growt…

In this episode of Absolutely Focused Radio, the Sobriety Crew exposes emotional sabotage—what happens when trust is breached and your growth threatens someone else’s comfort.🎙️ Featuring: Jane Marie – Stats & Facts Chucky th...

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May 02, 2025

Season 3 Episode 20: Firewall Down – Trust Exploited, Growth Ignited

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In this episode of Absolutely Focused Radio, the Sobriety Crew exposes emotional sabotage—what happens when trust is breached and your growth threatens someone else’s comfort.🎙️ Featuring:

Jane Marie – Stats & Facts
Chucky the Chip – TechOnDeck
Marcus the Motivator – Affirmations for elevation
ThaBudd – Your host, breaking it down with bold truth

💥 Topics:

Weaponized silence, blame-shifting, and emotional triangulation
Covert betrayal masked as concern
PTSD-like effects of relational sabotage
How to "threat hunt" your emotional life
Digital tools to track, log, and protect your peace

🛠️ Tools & Apps for Your Healing Journey:MindShield (Distraction Blocker)
iOS/macOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/mindshield/id1660218371
PC (Open Source): https://github.com/ulyngs/mindshield-open-sourceDaylio – Mood Tracker
iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/daylio-journal-daily-diary/id1194023242
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=net.daylio
PC Tips: https://www.reddit.com/r/Daylio/comments/k7u2gt/guide_using_daylio_on_your_pc/Reflectly – AI Journal
iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/reflectly-journal-ai-diary/id1241229134
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.reflectlyApp
Web: https://reflectly.app/Penzu – Private Encrypted Journal
iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/penzu/id452674732
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.penzu.android
Web: https://penzu.com/Journey – Cross-Platform Diary
iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/journey-diary-journal/id1300202543
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.journey.app
PC/macOS/Linux: https://journey.cloud/downloads🗣️ Affirm it:
“I update my mindset daily—outdated systems no longer control me.”🧠 Truth has a sound—and it just found you.Stay focused. Stay free.
You are absolutely worth it.
And stay awesome... and hydrated, my friend. 💧

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I build a firewall around my heart because love and

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co you's hair par use my trust like a lodging key.

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Welcome to Absolutely Focused Radio, where healing meets hustle and

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growth ain't optional, it's essential. You're now locked in with

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the Sobriety crew. Jane Marie on the stats and facts,

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Chucky the Chip with that tech on deck, Marcus the

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motivator serving up inspiration for the nation, and of course

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I'm your host. Let's get into it. Today's episode Firewall down.

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Trust exploited, Growth ignited, because sometimes the biggest threat to

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your peace isn't a stranger, it's the one who knew

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your word. When healing feels like a threat.

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You ever notice how folks allowed when you're struggling, but

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silent when you start healing. When you're broken, they show up,

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but when you start building, you've changed. You acting different Now,

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why you don't reach out like before? Here's what they're

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really saying. Your growth is making me uncomfortable. Growth exposes

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what comfort covers. Let's unpack it.

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The psychology of silent sabotage.

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Studies show that over sixty percent of people unconsciously resist

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the success of those closest to them. Why, Because your

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growth becomes a mirror they weren't ready to look into

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it triggers something called a threatened idea dentity response, a

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psychological reaction to change they're not a part of. It's

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not that they hate you. They hate what your healing

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says about their own avoidance.

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And when they can't clap for you, keep dancing anyway.

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Your purpose wasn't built for their comfort zone.

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The malware of manipulation.

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What's up, fam, it's your tech savvy peacekeeper, Chucky the chip.

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Let's break it down. In cybersecurity, insider threats are the

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most dangerous people you trusted with access who use it

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to attack your system from the inside. Sound familiar in

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real life. They don't always use code. They use guilt, silence, manipulation.

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Sometimes they weaponize your own vulnerability. But not every virus

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shuts you down instantly. Some run in the background, draining energy, clarity,

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and confidence. That's emotional malware. That's why we threat hunt.

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Here's how you secure your piece. Audit emotional access. Who's

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logged in where they shouldn't be, log behavior patterns. If

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it feels off, it probably is patch vulnerabilities. Know your triggers.

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Strengthen your boundaries. Use tech for your healing mind shield

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track mood swings, dlio or reflecte, journal, emotional patterns, penzo

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or journey. Secure your truth with time stamps. Staying focused

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isn't a suggestion, it's your firewall.

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And sometimes the best update is the one where you

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let the old system.

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Crash the setup they don't see coming.

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But what happens when the threat came from the one

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you trusted most. It could be a partner rewriting the past,

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a friend flipping the narrative, a boss stealing your work,

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a parent who uses silence as punishment. You find yourself

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apologizing for what they caused. They create chaos, then pretend

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they're cleaning it up. That ain't loyalty, that ain't love.

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That's emotional warfare.

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And that behavior has a name, emotional triangulation. It's when someone,

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often a partner or a parent, uses other people, especially kids,

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to control the story. Studies show it leads to chronic anxiety, confusion,

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and identity damage.

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It's not toxic, it's abusive. The dirty ice effect.

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You ever purified your water only to drop in an

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ice cube made from dirty water, That's what betrayal feels

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like you do the work heal, show up clean, but

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they bring their untreated pain, and now your whole cups contaminated.

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Some betrayals aren't loud, they're calculated. Deynie smile say they

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got you. But the second you slip, they flip the script.

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Now they're the victim and you're the problem. That's not care,

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that's strategy.

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When the truth is flipped, betrayal trauma activates the same

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brain regions as PTSD. You begin doubting what you saw,

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what you felt, and eventually yourself. That's why keeping your

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own records matters. Apps like Penzu or Journey give you

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encrypted journaling, so when someone rewrites the story, you've got

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the receipts.

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You've done enough, Survivor, it's time to secure your peace.

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Let's speak life into your system right now.

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Group affirmations with the Sobriety Crew.

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I'm no longer available for emotional manipulation disguised as love.

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I update my mindset daily. Outdated systems no longer control me.

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I am not responsible for anyone's fear of my growth.

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I rise anyway.

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If loving right makes me wrong in their eyes, I'll

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still love right.

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This was firewall down, trust exploited, growth ignited, Episode twenty

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of Absolutely Focused Radio. If this episode felt personal, it

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was because when the truth shows up, it doesn't whisper.

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It confirms keep.

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Your system clean, keep your energy encrypted.

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And never apologize for protecting your peace.

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Stay focused, stay free, and always remember you.

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Are absolutely worth it.

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And stay awesome and stay hydrated. My friend, I'm more

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than truth.

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They stayed on brand.

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Now they watch in the glow.

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They don't understand. I'm the glitch and I'm God supply

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the career.

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I think it is sign no traumatist. I've paid a.

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Piece on over job, twist, nast piece. I've been a

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gossip line, the coulder right. They didn't sign no drama,

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just upgraded piece a one woman plot, twist master piece