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In this powerful episode of Absolutely Focused Radio Podcast, Daniel Thabudd Nelson and the Sobriety Crew dive deep into the silent war—how manipulation, alienation, and gaslighting can strip a person of their identity. But s...

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March 06, 2025

Unbreakable: The Silent War & The Power of Sobriety Season 3 Episode 14

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In this powerful episode of Absolutely Focused Radio Podcast, Daniel Thabudd Nelson and the Sobriety Crew dive deep into the silent war—how manipulation, alienation, and gaslighting can strip a person of their identity. But sobriety changes everything.✅ Jane Marie breaks down the hard stats on alienation’s impact.
✅ Chucky Chip reveals how technology fuels the divide and controls narratives.
✅ Marcus the Motivator drops raw motivation to help you hold your ground.This episode is all about breaking chains, reclaiming your power, and embracing your comeback story.💡 Join the Sobriety Crew—because it only takes one acorn to grow into a forest. Subscribe, support, and share.And remember: Stay awesome and smile on purpose, ‘cause you are the purpose.Buy Absolutely Focused Radio, a bottle of focus!

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Warning this episode may cause clarity, self reflection, and the

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urgent need to upgrade your life. If you've ever wondered

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why certain people seem programmed to drain, manipulate, and control you,

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this one's for you. Welcome to Episode thirteen, where we

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expose how toxic behaviors operate just like malware, silently corrupting

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your mindset, slowing your progress, and feeding off your energy.

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But today you install the fire wall, you take back control.

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With us your host Daniel Nelson aka your Sobriety Buddy,

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and the Sobriety Crew. We've got Jane Marie analyzing the

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system failures, Chucky Chip decoding the technical side, and Marcus

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the Motivator closing it out with humor and straight up motivation.

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Sit tight, You might just listen twice the covert malware

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Why it's stealing your energy without you knowing?

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You ever wake up feeling drained and you didn't even

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do anything wrong. You gave, you helped, you stayed patient,

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you tried to do right by people, and still it's

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like something or someone is draining your energy, running in

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the background, messing with your peace. That's because some people

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are like covert malware. They don't just come out and

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attack you head on. They work silently, running their toxic

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programming in the background of your life. Think about it.

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Ever felt manipulated into apologizing for something you didn't even do.

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Ever questioned your own memory after someone gaslit you, Ever

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felt obligated to help someone who never shows up for you.

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That's not love. That's a program system attack. And here's

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the scary part. Malware doesn't care if it crashes your

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system as long as it spreads its damage. Toxic people,

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they'll self destruct if it means making you look like

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the problem. The key to survival watch how you react

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the moment you denied them access to your emotions. They

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control weakens. Let's go deeper with Jane Marie.

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How different types of toxic malware work.

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Jane Marie, let's break this down because awareness is your

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first firewall. Spyware the monitor everything type. This is the

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person who pretends to care, but they're really just collecting data.

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They remember your struggles, not to help you, but to

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use against you later. Ransomware the guilt trippers. Ever heard

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after all I've done for you or you owe me this?

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That's emotional blackmail. They want you to feel indebted, even

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when you never agreed to the contract. Trojan horse, the

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fake supporter. Look safe, feel safe, but once inside, they're

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corrupting everything. They come as friends, partners, or even mentors,

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but their goal control adware, the emotional energy leech. They

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pop up whenever they need something. Their crisis is always urgent,

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their drama is always high priority, but when you need

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them crickets. Fact, seventy eight percent of emotionally manipulated individuals

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report higher stress, anxiety, and difficulty making decisions. Source Journal

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of Behavioral Psychology. What does this tell us? Toxic people

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don't just drain your emotions. They weaken your ability to

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think clearly. And that's why Chuck e Chip is about

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to break down the science of.

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It all, the science of toxic people. How they hijack

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your mental system.

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Chuck e Chip, all right, let's talk about how toxic

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behaviors literally hijack your brain's processing system. Stat your brain

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processes thirty five thousand decisions per day. Toxic people use

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emotional manipulation to disrupt that function, keeping you stuck, doubting yourself,

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and emotionally exhausted. How simple, dot they flood your system

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with cortisol stress hormone. Your brain stops focusing on logic

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and switches to survival mode. They mess with your dopamine cycle.

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The good moments they give you just enough to keep

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you coming back. They trigger glitch loops. Ever had an

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argument where no matter what you say, they keep twisting it.

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That's because they're forcing your brain into an exhausting logic

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loop realization. Toxic people don't want resolution, they want control,

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and the best way to take your power back stop

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responding to their programming. But I know y'all need some

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motivation now, Marcus take it away.

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Marcus the motivator brings the firewall.

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Listen, Ever, try to close a pop up ad and

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another one just opens up. That's a toxic person in

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your life. You say I need space, they send a

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guilt text. You set a boundary, they suddenly need you.

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New rule, You are not free tech support for people

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who refuse to upgrade their own mindset a lama, because

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here's the truth. If you want a system that runs smoothly,

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you need to block bad software. No more giving unlimited

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access to people who drain your battery. So today's challenge

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ordit your life like a security scan. Who's slowing you down.

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Who's a virus in disguise? And once you find them, delete, uninstall, block, feel.

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Me the final system upgrade.

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If this episode made you rethink some things good, that

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means you're waking up. Toxic behaviors aren't just annoying. They

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rewire your thinking, break your peace, and hold you back.

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But now you got the firewall, you got the tools,

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and you are in control. If this hit home, comment,

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share it, replay it, let's spread awareness, and as always,

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stay awesome and smile on purpose cause you are the purpose.

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Catch you all next time.