When Growth Feels Like a Battle: Protecting Your Peace from…

You’ve done the work. You’ve changed. But people still bring up your past like you never evolved. Why? Because they haven’t. Some people need to keep you in the old version of yourself because it makes them feel better about ...

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January 30, 2025

When Growth Feels Like a Battle: Protecting Your Peace from Manipulation & Blame Season 3 - Episode 6

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You’ve done the work. You’ve changed. But people still bring up your past like you never evolved. Why? Because they haven’t. Some people need to keep you in the old version of yourself because it makes them feel better about not growing." "In this episode of The Sobriety Crew Podcast, Daniel “The Bud” Nelson and Marcus the Motivator are breaking down the truth about emotional exhaustion, manipulation, and how to take back control of your energy, mind, and peace." 💥 TAP IN NOW → https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/absolutelyfocusedradiopod 🔹 Why people refuse to accept your growth
🔹 How to stop engaging with toxic cycles
🔹 Real-life strategies to break free from manipulation and blame 💭 What’s the hardest part about cutting off toxic cycles?
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The Sobriety Crew podcast stamps the official thing.

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Welcome back to the Sobriety cru Podcast. I'm your host,

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Daniel Nelson aka the Bud aka your Sobriety Buddy, and

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today I gotta be real with you. Have you ever

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felt like no matter how much you grow, no matter

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how much you evolve, some people still try to throw

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your past in your face, like they just won't let

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go of the old version of you. Well, you're not alone.

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Powerful facts, man, I'm Marcus the Motivator, and listen, when

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you change, not everybody's going to clap for you. Some

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people will straight up refuse to see it because your

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growth forces them to look at their own stagnancy. But

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here's the truth. You don't need their validation. You only

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need your progress.

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And today we're getting into it. How to protect your peace,

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set boundaries, and stop letting toxic people drain your energy

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and stick around because later we got our guide, Chuck

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E Chip coming through with the tech segment breaking down

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the tools that can help you stay mentally sharp and

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focused in a world full of distractions.

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The reality of emotional exhaustion.

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So let's talk about it. When you're growing, healing and

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making real changes in your lives, why do people still

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try to keep you in that same old space. I

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used to think maybe if I explain myself more, if

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I show them my growth, they'll see it. But some

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people don't want to see it.

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That's because it's not about you, it's about them. If

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they admit you've changed, then they have to question why

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they haven't. So instead of doing that work, they make

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you the.

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Problem exactly, And after a while it's exhausting. You start

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feeling drained, sleeping moss, losing motivation because it's like, what's

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the point. But here's the thing. The point isn't to

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convince them. The point is to keep going for you.

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Breaking the cycle.

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So how do we break this cycle? First, recognize when

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someone is manipulating the narrative. If you're constantly being made

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to feel like you haven't changed even though you've done

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the work, that's a red flag.

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And seconds, stop trying to prove yourself to people who

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benefit from doubting you. Some people need you to stay

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stuck so they can feel better about their own lack

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of growth. That's not your responsibility to fix.

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Third, set boundaries. If someone only comes around to drain

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your energy or remind you of your past. Don't deserve

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access to your present or your future.

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Turning pain into purpose.

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This is why I started posting, podcasting and bringing awareness

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because I realized my voice wasn't meant to argue, it

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was meant to build. Instead of wasting energy explaining yourself,

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put that energy into creating something bigger.

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That's the real shift. When you stop defending yourself and

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start putting that energy into purpose, that's when everything changes.

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You're not here to convince people who refuse to grow.

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You're here to grow for you.

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Memory again, real life steps to stay strong.

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All right, let's give them some real tools. First, self checks.

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Ask yourself daily, am I carrying something that's not mine?

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If the answer is yes, let it go.

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Second, take care of your body. When we feel emotionally drained,

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we stop eating, right, we stop moving. We shut down,

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even if it's something small. Make sure you're taking care

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of yourself.

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Third, limit your access to toxic people. Not everybody needs

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a response. Your silence is sometimes your biggest power.

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Move and last, affirm yourself. If you don't, the world

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will try to tell you who you are, so say

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it out loud. I am not who they say I am,

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I know my true I protect my peace.

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Text segment with Chucky Chip.

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All right, now let's bring in our guy, Chucky Chip.

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What tools can people use to protect their energy?

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Yo?

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If you want to keep your mind sharp and your

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energy protected, here's what you need. One notion or ever

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No journaling apps to track your thoughts and progress. To

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forest focus app helps you stay off distractions and be productive.

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Three headspace or calm meditation apps to help reset your mind.

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Chucky always coming through with the gems. Y'all take advantage

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of these tools and protect your energy.

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Closing message, listen, if nobody told you today, your growth

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is real and you don't need anyone's permission to keep evolving.

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You are not who they say you are. You are

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who you know you are. Keep your mind clear, your

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energy protected, and your purpose stronger than their opinions.

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If this episode hit home for you, share it, follow,

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and let's keep growing together.

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We'll catch y'all on the next one. Stay up, stay strong,

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and as always, keep pushing forward. DJ.

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Let's just be reading world like River thought by your

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Also now I get your obstacles, that your best sense cause,

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embrace the changes you're evolving and strong in your own time,

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can truly be all. Embrace your true self, that's your lightly.

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You're already a.

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Being like the sunbeam and your whole night that your

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life shine by. Embrace so journey. It's a beautiful sight

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that goes happy like your sol felt. Celebrate your room,

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just be reading well