When Growth Gets Quiet

In this powerful episode of Absolutely Focused Radio, Daniel Thabudd Nelson and the Sobriety Crew explore the silence that follows elevation. When you grow, the noise fades — but so do certain people. Learn how to spot DSR be...

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April 17, 2025

When Growth Gets Quiet

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In this powerful episode of Absolutely Focused Radio, Daniel Thabudd Nelson and the Sobriety Crew explore the silence that follows elevation. When you grow, the noise fades — but so do certain people. Learn how to spot DSR behaviors (Disrespectful, Self-Centered, Red Flags), hold your boundaries, and protect your peace in the quiet seasons of growth.With stats from Jane Marie, tech tools from Chucky Chip, and motivation from Marcus, this episode delivers tough love and real tools to navigate the lonely but powerful road of healing.🔒 Silence is where strength whispers louder.
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A cloud for myself, run away for the crowd.

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Salas Gott Welcome back to Absolutely Focused Radio, where healing

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ain't loud, but it's always powerful. Today's episode is called

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When Growth Gets Quiet, a raw look into what happens

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when you elevate set boundaries and realize not everyone is

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supposed to come with you. Before we dive in, let

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me ask you something ever felt like. The better you get,

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the quieter it gets. Well, you're not alone. Let's talk

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about it. Hosted by Daniel Nelson, your Sobriety Buddy, and

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featuring the Sobriety Crew, Jane Marie with the stats and Facts,

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Chucky Chip with on deck, Marcus the Motivator with inspiration

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for the Nation.

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Six years sober and I'm still learning. You know what

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they don't tell you. Growth is quiet. It's not collaps

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and congratulations. It's distance. It's silence. It's losing people you

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thought were permanent, But those lonely steps they're building something

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stronger because I realize the real me can't grow around

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people who were feeding the old meat.

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Stats don't lie. Over twenty million Americans deal with substance use,

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but most of them say the hardest part isn't quitting,

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it's staying consistent. When support fades, that lonely space after progress.

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It's real, but it's also a growth phase. Here are

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three ways to stay grounded when it's Normalize the silence.

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Growth naturally filters your circle. Let it journal your wins.

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Claps are optional, Clarity is not build intentional support. Even

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one real connection can protect your mindset.

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Here's what hit me the hardest. You don't just lose people.

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You see people. You stop justifying their patterns. You stop

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editing your piece to fit the chaos. I had to

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learn you can accept who someone is without accepting how

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they treat you.

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Straight facts, and when you stop drinking, people can't blame

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your mistakes on alcohol anymore, so they start phishing for

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new ammo. And when they can't control you, they call

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you different. But different just means you're no longer easy

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to manipulate. Let them sit with that. Your mind is

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the main frame. Wouldn't leave your phone unlocked, so why

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leave your piece unprotected? Here are three apps that help

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you track your growth, reflect daily, and stay locked in.

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I am Sober for commitment tracking, Reframe for mindset coaching,

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Headspace for mental clarity. And Calm available on iOS and android.

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Check the show notes for links. Keep your focus updated,

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not just your phone. Segment four Spotting the DSRs disrespectful,

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self centered red flag behaviors.

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Let's keep it one hundred. Sometimes when growth gets quiet,

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dsur behaviors get loud, let's break it down. D disrespectful

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people minimize your healing. They mock your changes or claim

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you're too serious now. They cross boundaries you clearly set.

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You've changed, I've upgraded, and your old access level doesn't

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work here anymore. S equals self centered. They make your

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sobriety about them. They withdraw support the moment they can't

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benefit from your chaos. They blame you for the discomfort

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they feel around your growth. Why are you acting different

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because I finally respect myself. That's not a betrayal, that's

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a breakthrough. Are equals red flags convert manipulation disguised as concern,

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trying to guilt trip you back into old habits, only

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showing up when they can play the hero, not when

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you set boundaries. These folks don't miss the old U.

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They missed the version of you they could control. Doesn't

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make you better than them. It just makes you better

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than who you used to be. And that's the part

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they don't clap for the biggest motivator self belief, not approval,

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not attention. I don't chase applause, I chase alignment, and

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I don't show up for people who ignore the effort

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it takes to heal. If you're in that quiet space,

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don't mistake it for weakness. Silence is where strength whispers louder.

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You're not losing yourself, you're finding you. Let's end it

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on some focus fuel crew. Drop the affirmations.

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You're not behind. You're healing at your own depth.

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Download piece, delete pressure, reboot your focus.

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You ain't just growing, you're glowing. Let them squint.

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When growth gets quiet, that's your signal you're focused now.

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Affirmation recap, you're.

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Not behind, Protect your peace, let them squint. Stay focused.

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That's a wrap on this episode of Absolutely Focused Radio.

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If this hit your heart, share it with someone who's

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silently evolving. Healing isn't loud, but it echoes in everything

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you become Until next time, Stay sober, stay sharp, stay

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absolutely focused.